I recently had a conversation with a friend that made me realized how much evil has permeated our world, even among those of us who seemingly have everything.
We were sitting together, watching our kids play. We were talking about our kids, chit-chatting about this and that, enjoying the unseasonably warm weather. She has two adorable children, a professional full-time job, a quiet husband, a beautiful home and a lifestyle some would label as "having it all."
Friend: How do you DO it with four children? I mean, I can barely keep up with what I have.
Me: Well, you know, there are hard days...juggling so much, but all in all, it's really not that hard. When you have four kids, they play with one another. Two of my kids are old enough to help me with chores, make their lunches, take baths....it was difficult when they were all tiny, but that goes relatively fast when you consider the big picture. In fact, I don't think it would be that much harder if we ever had another child. I feel like I've been through the hard part having Jack and Gus 15 months apart.
Friend: I kind of wish I could have another child. But I had to beg my husband for our second, and I know he would make me abort a baby if I got pregnant again. He does not want more children.
I just sat there, nodding like some dummy, pretending not to be shocked at such a statement. Inside I wanted to cry for her. To her husband, abortion would be a 'matter of fact' thing that would occur if she dared get pregnant. Her desire for another child is not even explored. But he still takes the sex. Lifeless sex. Separated from the beautiful reality of it's purpose. His desires are met. Her desires are killed. Now I know that these things are more complicated than how I'm stating them, but really! A man who LOVES his wife would love her NO MATTER WHAT... and if a baby is a result of that shared love....WHY WOULD YOU EVER WANT TO KILL IT?
God save us.